TMI Tuesday #157

1. Have you ever felt guilty or ashamed after a sexual experience?
Oh hell yeah. Guilty. Most def. I was married... umm.. I still am. I am separated currently. Since January. Damn, I really need to get the ball moving on this getting a divorce. Anyway.... I drove out to Wisconsin (long story short) to visit with some friends out there. I had been IMing with someone out there that I had actually not even met. Just exchanged pictures and of course the IMs and the e-mails got more and more heated. I knew I was going to sleep with him when I went out there. I was still living with my STBE and well, slept with another man. I felt guilty, but it just reaffirmed that I needed to be out of the marriage.

Other then that, I have not felt guilty or ashamed at all. I love sex (now that I'm having it) and I don't think that there is really anything that would make me feel guilty now or ashamed for that matter.


2. Did you ever own a fake ID?
No I did not. I never really needed to. My friends and I would drink at someone's house and we'd always find someone to buy us alcohol.


3. How often do you tell white lies? Is it with or without thinking?
Ummm.. daily. "Oh your new haircut looks good." "Wow, I would have never guessed you weighted 202lbs." It's just something that I do so that I don't have to hurt someone's feelings.

I think that in my life I do try to be as honest as possible.

Oh.. snap. My best friend is not really pleased with my relationship with Al Gore. So, I tend to lie to her and tell her that I'm doing something different when in reality, I am with Al. I don't like doing it. I just don't want her to give me a hard time about it.


4. On a scale of 1-10, how well do you receive constructive criticism?
Depends. I used to be a negative 5. Meaning I did not take it very well at all. Now I think that I have worked my way up to a positive 7 :-) I can take it well if it's given by someone that I respect and trust that they are not stupid. That they know what they are talking about. Otherwise, I just blow it off and don't think twice.


5. Have you ever shaved your pubic hair?
Hell to the yeah. I don't want to go down on a really hairy man and I don't think that he would want to do the same. When I met Al I was a landing strip kinda gal. He likes it all shaved so that's what I do. I did get it all waxed.. you know.. I visited Brazil. The waxing wasn't bad at all. It's just that it didn't last as long as I would have wanted. Now when I shave I have to try so hard not to get those stupid, irritation bumps. Really annoying.


Bonus: What percentage of women do you think are capable of handling being in a "friends with benefits" relationship? How about men?
NONE! ZIP! ZERO! (on the women side)
I started with Al Gore as a FWB (friends with benefits) and man, it was not at all easy to do. We had huge ups and downs and he freaked out on me several times when he thought I was getting too clingy (which in all honesty, I was). You need to be honest if you are going to try FWB. You have to go into and let the other person know your expectations and you have to hear what theirs are. If you start seeing someone else and esp if you are sleeping with them, you need to let the other know. It's just out of respect.

Can men do FWB? ABSOLUTELY. Sex to me is something personal. It's a connection. It's a feeling and men can disassociate between feelings of the heart and feelings of the body. Women can not. It's not a bad thing. It's just the way that it is. Al had no issues with us just sleeping together with no indication that this would ever go further. I, on the other hand, would think about it a lot.

I still do. I still wonder what's going on with us. We live apart. It takes about 2 hours to drive to see him. What happens next? I can't keep driving to see him. I mean, I guess I can b/c I do feel that what we do have together is amazing. He is an amazing human being and kind and loving. Caring and thoughtful. And above all else, I just feel so relaxed around him and it feels so amazing to just lay with him.. next to him. Skin 2 Skin.